I have been guilty of losing touch with friends over the past few years. It’s almost like an evil cycle. Starting with forgetting to reply, then feeling guilty about it. I will try to contact them again. And maybe I’ll get a reply back and forth, but then life comes swingin in, and we lose touch again.
With some friends, it is still easy to pick up where we left off, even after a long break. However, it is often not the case for a few friends. Somehow, we grow apart and we stop becoming friends anymore. We might not say it directly, but we can feel it. It’s not the same anymore.
I know it is natural that relationship run its course and it always takes two to tango. However, I still feel a sense of grief when it happens. I even go through the full stages of grief.
There’s denial: Ah maybe she was just tired or having a bad day. There’s anger: She is such a terrible friend. I do not need her. There’s bargaining: Okay, maybe I will give her some space for a couple of weeks. There’s sadness: I don’t know why she does not want to be friends anymore. And finally there’s acceptance. This is happening; I have to figure out how to proceed.
One of my goals in 2021 is definitely to keep in touch. My friend has been sending a regular personal update via email and I will copy her way to get started.
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